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Dec 2, 2019<\/span><\/p>\n The most notable influencers have entire platforms behind them that include a value system and code and a methodology that rings true for thousands or even millions. When you practice what you preach, you develop a platform of value.\u00a0 I believe that to build a powerful new community you have to honor the chain of connections, at least five links deep. When you can purposely weave these people together they learn to recognize their shared value.<\/span><\/p>\n In my community, we only have a few clear-cut rules, but recognizing the value of other relationships is key.\u00a0 In fact, I make it a transparent and clear-cut \u201cthreat\u201d that if you don\u2019t honor the chain while attending the series of my events I run for connectors called the ConnectED\/OR Gatherings–and I find out from others a tangible result occurred because of someone at that event–then you are out of the community.\u00a0 The least you could\u2019ve done was say thank you. And that was all I asked.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Think about how much you\u2019ve invested in the closest 50-100 people around you.\u00a0 Some you worked with for years. You sat on Boards together. Attend every conference together.\u00a0 Watched their kids. Were roommates. Etc. <\/span>\u00a0<\/span>The investment you made was in time. \u00a0 You might get paid hourly or measure your salaried position in how you spend your time, but you can\u2019t put a price on strong relationships.\u00a0 You either have them or you don\u2019t.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n When you introduce a friend or colleague to someone you\u2019ve put such an investment into, you don\u2019t expect that intro to be transactional.\u00a0 In fact, you cringe at it. But you also clearly want to understand the value of that transfer or addition of relationship, and you want to feel valued for providing mutual value to others.<\/span><\/p>\n We focus most clearly on the things that went wrong.\u00a0 What frustrated or angered us, even the situations where we felt betrayed. <\/span>\u00a0<\/span>When we think we are doing our best, we often neglect the people around us we needed to get there. That exact moment when we are at our height is both the perfect moment to express gratitude and recognize others, because it is when we need others around us the least–and therefore the expression of thanks is purely that–no agenda or purpose beyond making someone else feel more valued.<\/span><\/p>\n I make 200+ intros a month.\u00a0 Those that neglect to thank me not only drop from my radar, but unless I know they are helping others I\u2019m close to, I am reticent to keep helping them again.<\/span><\/p>\n Those that express gratitude stay top of mind, and are given a free opportunity to have me focus on them within a busy schedule.\u00a0 All it really takes in this day and age is a bunch of funny emoticons and a note like \u201cthat talk with Frank Fredericks was awesome.\u201d\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n When you express gratitude and honor the chain, you build community.\u00a0 When you build community, those around you are now purposefully connected to each other.\u00a0 You have taken seemingly random connections and woven them together and produced other interactions you couldn\u2019t have predicted.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n And you feel great doing so.<\/span><\/p>\n Here\u2019s my personal example of honoring the chain:<\/span><\/p>\n \u00a0<\/span>I recently embarked on a journey to incubate a media company with an impact lens for filmmakers Paul and Kristina Dalio to change the world through featured film and media:<\/span><\/p>\n Link One:<\/b>\u00a0 I met Paul and Kristina because of Barbara Ricci, Treasurer of the Arthur Miller Foundation (AMF).<\/span><\/p>\n Link Two: <\/b>\u00a0I was offered to join the Board of AMF, through my friend with Jaime Hastings, whom I met through my high school buddy and entrepreneur Bharani Rajakumar.<\/span><\/p>\n Link Three:<\/b>\u00a0 Besides personal friendship, part of the reason Paul and I bonded early on was because of an interfaith dinner my wife and I co-hosted with my friend Rachel Gerroll (and her husband Spencer), along with our mutual friends Daniel Pincus and Becky Sweren.\u00a0 Paul is working on a movie that touches heavily on interfaith.<\/span><\/p>\n Link Four:<\/b>\u00a0 I met Rachel Gerroll because of my friend Josh Tanenbaum (who is President of the America-Israel Cultural Foundation, which I led for 14 years).<\/span><\/p>\n Link Five<\/b>:<\/span>\u00a0 <\/b>Josh was introduced to me through two incredible cousins, Yael Alkalay and Eyal Vilner, who are both amazing artists.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n T<\/span>hese individuals I help support work in Mental Health, Jewish Charities, Arts and Culture, InterFaith, Future of Work, Oceans, etc<\/span>\u00a0<\/span>.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Everything is interrelated when you purpose weave community and gratitude into your work. <\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Dec 2, 2019 The most notable influencers have entire platforms behind them that include a value system and code and a methodology that rings true for thousands or even millions. 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